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With that in mind, have you learned to be the person that others can count on? Who knows that you will be there in a crunch?

What about projects that you work on personally or professionally? Do you push past your frustrations when things don’t go as planned? Are you the person that’s always looking for a solution on how to make something work or are you the one always complaining and venting?

The answer to those latter questions is the difference between who gets the job, the promotion and the successful relationship. Think about it. The CEO hired you to add to the company, not take away from it. Your job is to come up with answers and solutions to make money and /or make things better in some way. You’re not there so that they can make you feel good about yourself. You are being paid by someone to make their life, their company better. If you can’t do that, then they may very well question if you are in it to win it.

The same is true or will be true for your own company. Why would you hire someone if they don’t add value and contribute to your vision and plan?

And in the words of author, journalist, and media personality Roland Martin, “I’ve been fired many times, so it doesn’t scare me…” Roland was referring to the risks that people take when they want to express themselves beyond the position that they may hold at their current jobs. We’ve all been there. It’s frustrating when you know that you have the talent and ability to do more, but people in positions of power try to hold you back. They are controlling and are afraid that you might shine more than them. However, if you say that you want more, more responsibility, more visibility, more freedom, you must always consider the cost of being at the top.

Roland continues, “You have to understand that there is a cost to freedom. First, you have to have the skills, then, you have to do the work. At the end of the day, it’s about delivering.”

Here’s my response to that: Your deliverance is in your delivery. This means that you must do the hard work. Whatever is in front of you to do in whatever position you currently hold, do it with a spirit of excellence. Bring your best game to every task. When you do, your gift will make room for you. Before you know it, doors will start opening for you and you’ll be in business.

Winning is about more than collecting a check. Do what you love and enjoy the process of getting there. If you do, the reward will be far greater than money. Nothing is more fulfilling than being assured that you’re living out your purpose. That is why when things get tough, remember that you’re merely being prepared for your purpose.

Sometimes when we are on the brink of our breakthrough, we give up a moment too soon. We say things like, “I can’t take this anymore. I quit.” Here comes a cliché that speaks right to that attitude: “Quitters never win and winners never quit.” So which one are you?

DEYA DIRECTIVE: Life can be hard for everyone. But playing the victim is simply played out. Instead, decide that you owe it to the gift of life – being alive, having your health, right mind and having the use and activities of your limbs – to be your best every day. And when it gets hard, that’s the moment when you have an opportunity to be a part of the problem or become a part of the solution. Decide to be “in it to win it.”

Deya “Direct” Smith, is a producer on the Tom Joyner Morning Show and host of Girlfriend FM & Beyond the Studio celebrity interviews.  She is also the author of Touch Yourself, 30 Ways to Live, Love and Let Go (!  Deya is a life-style and inspirational speaker.

Play-Off’s: Ready to Win in Life and Love?  was originally published on

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