Stop introducing dudes to your children as their new potential father.
Why does it always have to be, “Lil Stevie, this is Mommy’s friiieeeennnd. We are only friiieeeennnds. He is a really nice guy, I think you will like him. But if you don’t, it’s okay, no pressure. Now I am going to go and fix you two something to eat. You guys play nice, okay?”
Don’t wait until you have fallen in love with a guy to introduce him to your kid. Don’t introduce your kid to a guy one-on-one at your house at night over a candlelight dinner. Don’t introduce your kid to a guy at a theme park where the first thing out of his mouth is, “Hey Stevie, how are you? I got tickets already for you, your mom and me. Would you like some popcorn or cotton candy or pickled pigsfeet?” Your kid will be like, “Say dude, my momma got my ticket!”
Both women and men alike are taking this dating with kids thing way too seriously. You’re thinking on it so hard that you are messing it up. Print this out, pour yourself a tall glass of that blue lemonade Kool-Aid and get the cap off the highlighter.
From now on and forever more, your kid meets the potential husband way before he is the potential husband. Your child meets him when you deem that the dude is cool. The guy does not have to babysit your kid the first time you meet him. You don’t even need to know the dude’s fatherhood skills… yet.