VIA SOCYBERTY:
We all have moments of anger, and blow up at one time or another. There are some people in our lives that just seem to get under our skin so easily and they know it, too. When you are angry, you won’t response smartly nor would you be sensitive to the other person’s feelings. Here is a list of things you can try to keep your cool.
If you are in a heated situation, walk away! Make sure you tell the party involved that you are too mad to have a discussion, and that you need time to think it through. Giving space to cool off in a heated moment can help both parties to see clearly. The more you are around each other when you are angry, the more difficult it will be to settle disputes. Before you know it, you will also dig up the past arguments, and throw them out at your partner. Walk away, leave the scene, and cool off!
Quickly think of a role model, and recall how he/she handles the situation. If it is your father that you think of in a difficult scene, how did he react to it? Having a role model serves that purpose when you are angry and can’t focus.Who is your role model in life? A stranger you’ve seen walking away calmly when he was attacked? Your mom peacefully handled a crazy neighbor? Have at least one role model in your mind to recall to.
Weave in Some Humor. Not sarcastic jokes! Say something that is sure to crack a smile or giggle, not something that can be translated into a “put-down”. If you really can’t come up with something to say, how about singing “I’m sorry, so sorry…” You know the tune! There is nothing worse than fuming the situation with “Does your hair always look that full?
Think of an Outlet. What helps you cool down when you are mad? Think of an outlet to take that frustration out. Pound a punching bag? Hit some golf balls? Weed out your garden vigorously? Rake your yard until there are no leaves left? Whatever it is, have an outlet to blow up some steam. Women and men have different ways of handling stressful situation, and recognizing this habit in your partner will help you have a better understanding about him/her.
Know your set off point! What makes you ticked? Who usually gets in your nerve? If you realize that this particular thing or person can upset you, you can easier control it. Pay closer attention to the moment you get angry, and why you get angry will help you learn your trigger. Keep a journal and record your moods. Writing can be very therapeutic to the soul since you can freely express your feelings without worry than someone might ridicule you. Anger is not good for your health, so find ways that work for you to stay calm.
