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Dear Gay Best Friend,
I have been seeing this young guy, he’s 29- years old and I’m 37-years old, for about 15 months and he’s the ass I know. I have dedicated almost all of my time to him only to find out that he’s still sleeping with his children’s mothers. I have been in an abusive relationship for years because I didn’t think that anyone would be interested in a heavy woman like myself.
I have expressed to my male friend what I want and how I feel about him only for him to tell me that he loves me, but he’s not where he wants to be at this point in his life and he doesn’t want to commit to a relationship. WTF! He’s the ONLY man that I am sleeping with, but I’m sure he’s still sleeping around with others. Then sometimes when he and I argue he’ll hang up on me and won’t answer my calls. When he’s with either one of his children’s mother he won’t answer his phone and I’m sure that they don’t know that he’s still seeing me. When he spends the night at my house he puts his phone on silent and places it in his shoe. LMBAO. I do EVERYTHING for this man and I just want him and no one else. Should I walk away or try to stick it out to see if there could be something between the two of us? HELP ME! – In Love With A Young Man
“After 7 Years & 3 Kids, He Wants To Explore Before We Get Married”
Dear Ms. In Love With A Young Man,
I want everyone to join hands with me. Take a deep breath, a really deep breath. Hold it. Hold it. And, now release it. Awwwwww!
A mind, a mind, a mind, a mind, a mind IS A TERRIBLE THING TO WASTE. Some folks clearly don’t need one, and those who do don’t use theirs, i.e., case in point – YOU, Ms. In Love With A Young Man.
Now, everyone join in with me and repeat, “I will never settle for anyone who doesn’t want to be with me. I will not allow anyone to mistreat, abuse, or use me in any capacity. I refuse to make someone a priority and they make me an option.”
Desperation is a cheap perfume that causes severe rashes on the skin. Loneliness is a cheap garment that causes you to put it on daily and you forget to wash it and all your rolls show. And, Weakness is wig that if worn too tight will kill your brain cells. Darling, you clearly are wearing all three along with a “STUPID” sign on your forehead. Might as well put a “KICK ME” sign on your back, too.
The man has told you that he doesn’t want to commit to a relationship. What part of that statement do you not understand? I’ll wait. You know what, I’m going to the movies, and hopefully by the time I get back you will let me know if you comprehend it.
So, Ms. In Love With A Young Man, I’m not even going to bother with this. I can’t and I won’t. Get a life. Please, please, please get a real life. One of your own. Just because you’re a big girl doesn’t mean you have to settle. Ugh! Sigh, deeply! I hope you will strongly consider finding yourself a good church home, family, and turning your life over to Jesus. I urge you. I beg of you. I stand behind you and push your big ass through the church doors because the doors are wide open. – Straight From Your Gay Best Friend
How many of you would chase after someone who has told you that they don’t want to be in a relationship?
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