Howard claims that his wife threatened to have him killed by Russian friends after she tried to extort him and claimed that she didn’t want any “n-word children.”

TMZ reports:

In the docs, Howard notes Michelle is NOT black — and claims that when she would get upset, she would scream things like, “[I] never wanted to marry a n**ger in the first place” and “[I] definitely didn’t want to be the step mother of some n**ger kids.”

As TMZ first reported, Howard claims Michelle is trying to extort him over private recordings she allegedly stole from his personal computer — and in the new docs, T.H. alleges his wife threatened to have him “clipped” if he went to police.

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However, when rumors of Ashton’s infidelity hit the net in October, it was clear that everything that glittered on the red carpet wasn’t gold. Sure enough, less than month after the reports surfaced, Demi decided to file for divorce this week. Could their age difference have had something to do with it, too?

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Halle Berry & Gabriel Aubry (10-year age difference)

The Oscar-wining actress and French-Canadian model met in November 2005 while shooting an ad for Versace and were inseparable from then on, even welcoming a daughter, Nahla, in March 2008. However, just two years later in April 2010, the couple split and have been engaged in a nasty custody battle ever since.

Vivica A. Fox & Omar “Slimm” White (20-year age difference)

The actress and her club promoter boyfriend dated for over year before he proposed to her with an 8-carat diamond ring the day after Christmas 2010. She bragged about their love on camera, but less than a year after their happy announcement, Slimm confirmed their split, blaming “negativity.”

Madonna & Jesus Luz (28-year age difference)

The iconic artist and Brazilian model caught each others’ eyes while shooting a spread for W magazine in December 2008 – the same year she split from her (10-years-younger) husband Guy Ritchie. They traveled the world together and were photographed showing passionate PDA everywhere from Italy to Brazil to London. But in February 2010, Luz reportedly dumped Madge; though she wasted no time scooping up another boytoy later that year, French dancer Brahim Zaibat – also 28 years her junior.

Tameka Foster & Usher (7-year age difference)

The singer and his stylist got hitched in August 2007, much to the chagrin of his loyal (and mostly female) fans. Just 3 months later, their son Usher Raymond V (aka “Cinco”) was born and in December 2008, their second son Naviyd arrived. But the kids couldn’t keep them together; in June 2009, Usher filed for divorce from Foster after claiming they lived separately for nearly a year. Following the announcement, Tameka made sure to stay in headlines through magazine interviews and Twitter rants.

Eva Longoria & Tony Parker (7-year age difference)

The actress and French basketball player met in the San Antonio Spurs locker room in 2003 and tied the knot on the (not so) lucky date of 7/7/2007. Just three years later, in November 2010, the couple announced their divorce following Tony Parker’s sexting scandal with a teammate’s wife. Eva quickly rebounded, however, with actress Penelope Cruz’s brother Eduardo – 10 years younger – and is now rumored to be dating another NBA baller, Matt Barnes, the ex-fiance of “Basketball Wives” cast mate Gloria Govan.

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Here are a few tips to help you achieve forward motion in the quest for a healthy measure of success and happiness in all areas of life:

• Get clear. How can you know what is expected of you if you are not clear about what exactly you are trying to achieve? In the workplace you must get clear direction from your superior. In your relationships you have to have an open dialog about what you are trying to gain collectively and what are you “bottom line” of needs. Likewise, if you are currently not in a relationship or on a job, you should get a blank journal book for each and begin to clearly define for yourself what you require to be happy and successful in your career and at home. Be specific in your wants, needs and desires so that you can begin to focus your energy toward those things and most certainly, when you believe that it is possible for you then you will begin to see opportunities open for you in the direction of your vision.
• Set forth your intentions. You cannot hit a target if you cannot see it.  Once you have become clear about what you want from your career and in your love life then you can start to visualize yourself in that space. If you have been unfulfilled in past relationships, with lovers and workplace it will be challenging get out of the cycle of being unfulfilled. Visualizing yourself as you would like to experience your relationships and successful career opens your mind on a subconscious level to the belief that obtaining these things is actually a possibility for YOU. Hitting your target is much easier if you can see what it is that you are aiming for, so set forth your intentions.
• Seek out necessary resources. When you stop learning you should be dead – I mean that literally. The time to learn is now and always. Read books, go to seminars, buy programs that will help you advance, attend retreats, talk to your mentors, have lunch with the CEO of your company and other successful people in life, and do whatever it takes to develop the necessary tools for obtaining massive success, abundance and overflowing love. No need to wait until the need arises to learn a new skill, by that time you are already behind the curve. Add the knowledge to your toolbox and when needed you will instinctively use what you already know.
• Push beyond your limitations. While comfort zones are comfortable, they are also limiting.  Sometimes we get caught in these comfort zones and mistake them for what is “meant to be” but you’ll find that if you are willing to push yourself out of this space you will likely be met with success and happiness beyond your imagination. If you’ve only ever dated one type of person then open yourself to others. African American women are notorious for this by exclusively dating within the race, but the love of her life may not be of her nationality and by limiting herself; she’ll never have the opportunity to find out. If you’ve only ever worked one type of job, it may be time to adapt your skill set and look into another. There’s the old adage that says if you do what you’ve always done then you’ll get what you’ve always gotten. That couldn’t be more truthful. Is it time for you to push beyond your limitations?
• Go above and beyond. Don’t be afraid to take on new challenges without being instructed to do so.  Take the initiative to do more than is expected of you. Since mediocrity is the norm your enthusiastic efforts to do more will be noticed and presumably rewarded. More importantly, you will begin to have higher standards for yourself which will undoubtedly set you apart from the rest. And as you know, top quality positions take top quality people to fill them; professionally and personally. If it is your intention to secure a worthy position in your career and love life, then it is up to you to standout from the crowd.
• Take action now. Procrastination can be your worst enemy. The most common reasons that people procrastinate is because they don’t know where/how to begin, it appears overwhelming, they haven’t obtained the proper resources and they are afraid of change. Rarely is it because they are lazy. Laziness is something completely different. There is no better time than now to take action toward achieving your own success and happiness. NOW is the right time to get clear, set forth your intentions, seek out the necessary resources, push beyond your limitations, and to go above and beyond. Are you not worth a successful career, a happy home and enjoying the love of your life? It is up to you to put your plan in motion.

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To prove it, I have listed J.Lo’s top “It’s-over-and-I’m-moving-on” songs that she can sing to Marc for losing out BIG time. Imagine she’s performing these on her worldwide “He Cheated” fantasy tour.

1) I’m Gonna Be Alright

Jenny, I know you will be alright. Honestly, you currently have two top singles “On The Floor” and “I’m Into You” on the Billboard charts. Not only are you doing well in music, but there’s been recent speculation that you may be returning for the 11th season of American Idol on FOX; “alright” is an understatement! Sing it like you mean it: “I said I didn’t do it but I did it/Telling everybody that I wasn’t with it/Though it brings tears to my eyes I can feel it/And that voice inside says I’m gonna be alright”

2) Ain’t It Funny

While this song was great for your breakup with P. Diddy, it’s only a matter of time before Marc tries to send you gifts hoping they’ll make you reminisce. But, let’s be ahead of the game and get it across that he has lost all privileges. “Hope you realize that now I’m through/ And I don’t ever wanna hear from you/I had enough of bein’ there for you/Now, I’m laughin’ while you play the fool.” Marc, you have lost the game and cannot pass ‘go’ and collect $200, ain’t it funny!?

3) Louboutins

This is my favorite “I’m-over-you-and-will-party-instead” song that Marc needs to hear. Jenn, girl, we knew you were fed up and truly recorded this for the divorce! I’m sure as you sing this to Marc: “Watch these Red bottoms/And the back of my jeans/ Watch me go, bye baby/Don’t know what you got until it’s gone/Tail lights is all you’ll see/Watch this Benz exit/That driveway,” he’ll be sitting there looking lost, biting his bottom lip to keep from crying. Jen, you can replay this winner each time you’re ready to step out the house!

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After all, this was Jennifer’s third marriage. Granted, their union lasted longer than both of her previous marriages (and her one failed engagement) put together! But, unfortunately, after 7 years and the birth of twins, Jennifer and Marc called it quits.

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Ojani Noa, Husband: The couple met while Noa worked as a waiter at a Miami. They married in February 1997, just one month before her breakout role in “Selena” hit screens. They divorced just 10 months later in January 1998.

Sean “Puffy” Combs, Boyfriend: Not too long after her divorce, the two moguls-in-the-making became a couple in 1998. Seemingly a musical match made in heaven, they shared a 2-year relationship until 2000, that ultimately came under stress in 1999 when the two were involved in a New York nightclub melee.

Cris Judd, Husband: The singer married her back-up dancer in September 2001 after meeting him on the set of her “Love Don’t Cost A Thing” video. However, in April 2002, Lopez received flowers from actor Ben Affleck while with her husband at the grand opening of her restaurant. Not surprisingly, just two months later, in June 2002, they announced their separation. And were officially divorced in January 2003.

Ben Affleck, Fiance: The singer and actor began dating in 2002 before Jennifer’s divorce was even made final. They got engaged just several months later in November 2002. Their wedding was planned for September 2003, but was called off just hours before the event. However, the couple still remained together until officially calling it quits in January 2004.

Marc Anthony, Husband: The two had dated briefly in the late 1990s, but parted ways until reuniting in 2003 when Marc separated from his then-wife. Jen and Marc married in June 2004, just four days after his divorce was final. Four years later, in February 2008, the couple had twins. Unfortunately, they announced their divorce in July 2011.

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I have seen dozens of people hang on to relationships that should end, all for the sake of “it’s going to get better” . I want to run up and shake them.  I want to tell them to get out of the fantasy land they are living in. It won’t get better. It’s never going to get better. If he doesn’t pay the bills now, he won’t later. If she yells and throws tantrums now, she will always throw tantrums. 

Here are 8 signals that you should think about.

#1. When you live in past memories more than the present.

Do you replay the happy moments of the relationship to make you feel good about it? Do you use them as reasons to continue on with him/her? If so, it’s a sign your current relationship isn’t how you want it to be.You have to remember your relationship with the person exists in the current moment. Not in the past.

#2. When the relationship brings you more pain than joy.

Sometimes, we tend to be blinded by the past happy moments of the relationship. To the extent we forget about all the unhappiness it brings us. If your relationship leaves you frustrated/upset/unhappy more often than not; The relationship you are in now should be one which brings you happiness now.

#3. When he/she expects you to change.

The truest form of love is one that’s unconditional. Your partner shouldn’t expect you to change, unless it’s for your well-being (such as to quit smoking or to adopt a healthier diet). The issue here isn’t about you. The issue isn’t about the change itself either. The issue is about the expectation of you to change. While some requests may start off seemingly normal/benign, they will quickly build on over time. Even as you concede to the requests, more will come. It marks the first step of him/her trying to mold you into his/her expectations of you, rather than you growing into your own.

#4. When you stay on, expecting he/she will change.

The above applies for the other person as much as it applies for you. If you are staying on or getting into the relationship expecting the person to change, you are in this for the wrong reason. You are trying to change the person to fit your expectations, rather than accept him/her as the individual he/she is.

#5. When you keep justifying his/her actions to yourself.

Whenever we experience a situation we’re uncomfortable about, we experience cognitive dissonance. It refers to the discomfort from being faced with something that conflicts against our beliefs. When this happens, we try to come up with explanations, justifications so we can feel good about the situation. Likelihood is that you are living in your world of false assurances rather than the truth. Living a lie is the worst .

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#6. When the same situation/issue recurs even though you tried addressing it.

Once might be a coincidence. Twice, you might want to give another chance. But 3 times is a clear sign something is wrong. Do you find yourself in replay mode in your relationship? Do you keep landing in the same situation, the same scenario, the same outcome, time and again, no matter what you do? If so, perhaps you need to accept this is the furthest the relationship can get to. You can keep pressing on, but it’s a matter of time before it sinks in that there’s nothing further to go. This is the end of the road

#7. When your fundamental values and beliefs are different.

For any friendship or relationship to work out, there has to be certain similarity in fundamental values. Similarity in these values are the big rocks which will hold the friendship in place. Even if other things are dissimilar, the big rocks will enable the friendship to weather through even the toughest storms ahead. On the other hand, if your core values are fundamentally different, it doesn’t matter even if everything else is same. The journey to keep the relationship together will only become an uphill battle. While conformance has its merits, it should never be done at the expense of our own growth or our values. Compromising on your personal values just to keep a friendship afloat will ultimately only make you miserable. What’s worse, because your true self is repressed, you start to wrap your identity around the friendship.

#8.When you stay on, expecting things to get better.

This is similar to #1, except it pertains to the future. Just like how you don’t live in the past, you don’t live in the future. You can hope that the future will be better, but the fact is you live now. If the only thing that’s making you hold on is the hope of a better future, the relationship isn’t exactly built on solid grounds. The future you wish for is one of the many possibilities that can occur, a possibility that may never come to reality. It’s dangerous to base the fate of the relationship on something that might not occur. A building built on a shaky foundation will crash to an unsightly end when the foundation gives way.

Life is too short tobe miserable all the time. You should not have to struggle with your partner over the basics of life. In addition, you need to have a better reason to spend your life with someone. Take a good look. Ask the valuable questions. Love is an aphrodisiac that often blinds you. When the fog dissipates you are often lost.

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Obviously, nobody wants to believe that maybe they would say “yes” to a marriage proposal, just to have a wedding and for the thrill of writing “Mrs” next to your name, but according to Shine, a survey conducted by therapist Jennifer Gauvain, found that 30% of now-divorced women say they knew in their gut they were making a mistake as they walked down the aisle; but they did it anyway!

So the question is; why? Why go through with a wedding, if you know that something’s not right in the relationship beforehand?

Shine’s articles argues that the fairy-tale view of love and romance we have instilled in us as children is to blame, for as Gauvain notes; “we are raised with an unrealistic impression of what love is supposed to look like… Girls read fairy tales where the woman gets saved by the prince, and when they’re older, the same message is enforced through romantic comedies where love always prevails, despite impossible scenarios. So women learn that love can always work, even when it’s unhealthy.”

While I agree with that to an extent, it seem like a cop out to me. Yes, everyone want to believe that a storybook romance will happen for them and they will be the next Kate Middleton or even just end up like Amber Rose and Toya Carter, with a career and buckets of cash from the relationship, but what good is it if you’re Kate Middleton but not in love with your husband, or he’s not in love with you? (remember Princess Diana, anyone?) You might have the ring and an awesome party, but is it worth it?

In my opinion, the marrying just to get married and have a wedding thing, has more to do with competition and “winning” than a desire for a fairytale romance. One of my girls, Tori, is currently dating a guy who is going to be deported back to Canada. He suggested they get married so he can stay in the country, but wait for it, she “shouldn’t get the wrong idea, it’s not a real marriage,” (yes, I know, what an ass.) But the real kicker is, she wants to go ahead with it, and is telling everyone that she’s getting married and she even bought herself a ring. To a lady in the elevator the other day who congratulated her on the ring, she boasted about how romantic the proposal was and how excited she was for the wedding. To my raised eyebrows, and to answer the question that I hadn’t yet asked but was about to, about why she was settling for a guy who clearly treats her like a doormat, she said; “what? You don’t understand, you’re just mad at him, cos’ I got engaged first.”

Oh yeah, that must be it.

But her comment got me wondering if there really is a big competition to not be the last one of your friends to get married? Sadly, I think that there is still pressure to not be the last single girl standing. Has anyone seen the fight that breaks out when a bride throws the bouquet? I still don’t know why though; is it a showing off thing? Is it about proving that you’ve grown up? Is getting married still one of the ways we use to measure success, and if you don’t have the husband, then you haven’t really achieved?

Or is it just to be the one who has the most beautiful wedding dress, the best party and the most handsome husband, to ensure the most fabulous wedding photos? I would like to think that we wouldn’t get married for one day, one dress, one party, but 30% of divorced women and shows like “Bridezillas” and “4 Weddings” seem to disagree…

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